To snap or not to snap? That is the question when it comes to nudes, I mean. There's nothing wrong with sending a tantalizing pic of yourself to bae while they're at the library cramming for finals — for moral support, of course — or just for your own safekeeping.
You should get down on your knees every day and thank whichever god you believe in for bringing the iPhone into your hands. Never before has remote foreplay been so easy, making the sexy selfie a standard in hormone-fueled texting. However, not unlike celebrated photographers in the field, mediocrity should not be tolerated.
Taking nude selfies is an act of erotic expression, and sharing them with a trustworthy partner can deepen your intimacy plus make for tantalizing foreplay. Sadly, the joys of this pastime are often eclipsed by anxiety over photos being stolen or shared without consent. As long as everyone involved enthusiastically consents at every step of the way, taking and share nude photos is one of the hottest things you can do.
Sexting can be really fun, but it can also be so very, very awkward. Usually before you can even think about taking selfies, you have to get into dirty talk. And that can be almost worse than trying to find a great angle for your butt in a floor length mirror.
As a woman in her 20s, I am well acquainted with dating apps, particularly that hub of hookup potential we call Tinder. Over the years, most of my chats on this platform have followed a similar pattern: small talk, decent banter, switch to WhatsApp, then BAM. Dick pic on the screen.
If you've ever sent or received a sext, you're not alone. That number may even be higher now, as the study came out just as Snapchat, then an ephemeral multimedia messaging platform built around disappearing photos and video, was taking off. This is a judgment-free zone.
As a professional photographer, I'm disappointed with the state of the selfiethe "sexy selfie" in particular. With the sheer amount of "leaked" photos on the Internetit's infuriating that we're raising the next generation to believe that terribly composed, naked iPhone photos are sexy. For goodness sake, the nude photo used to be an art form, but lately it seems we seem to have forgotten how truly sexy the human body can be in all its subtlety. Lest I sound shame-y, I, too, have been guilty of the full face, full-on boob shot.
Look, we should all know by now that sending unsolicited dick pics is not cute. Unless somebody has explicitly asked you for a dick pic or nudes, do not assume that pulling your pants down and letting them in on how your genitals are looking that day is a good icebreaker. So assuming you trust your partner, how do you even know what to send?